Helping a Friend
The Basics
Questions to start the conversation..
What you can say that helps
Tips to help someone who seems down
Signs that someone may be depressed
Active Listening
1 - The Basics
1. Ask open questions (how, who, what)
2. Summarise
3. Reflect
4. Clarify
5. Give words of encouragement
6. React
7. Ask if they’d like to chat again and if so when.
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2 - Questions to start the conversation..
“How can I help you right now?”
“When did you begin feeling like this?”
“Did something happen that made you start feeling this way?”
“Have you thought about getting help?”
Remember, being supportive involves offering encouragement and hope. Very often, this is a matter of talking to the person in language that they will understand and can respond to, while in a different state of mind.
3. What you can say that helps:
“Even if I’m not able to understand exactly how you feel, I care about you and want to help.”
“You’re not alone. I’m here for you during this tough time.”
“It may be hard to believe right now, but the way you’re feeling will change.”
“Please tell me what I can do now to help you.”
Avoid:
“This is all in your head” / “Try to look on the bright side.” / “Just snap out of it.” / “Everyone goes through tough times.”
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4. Tips to help someone who seems down
Let them know you care and are there to listen
Accept them as they are, without judging them
Help them to stay active, eat good food and get a good night's sleep
Find support groups and psychological therapy services which may be available
Stay in touch with them by messaging, texting, phoning or meeting for coffee - people who are depressed can become isolated and may find it difficult to leave their home
Try to be patient
Take care of yourself Source
5. Signs that someone may be depressed
Depression has lots of possible symptoms. You may notice that someone:
Has lost interest in doing things they normally enjoy
Seems to be feeling down or hopeless
Has slower speech and movements or is more fidgety and restless than usual
Feels tired or doesn't have much energy
Is overeating or has lost their appetite
Is sleeping more than usual or isn't able to sleep
Has trouble concentrating on everyday things
6. Active Listening
Often when someone is having a hard time, they need someone to listen to them, not offer advice.
Listening while staying present and understanding where they’re coming from, is one of the best things you can do for someone.
* Reminder! Talk to the males in your life - they need your support!
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